De Bereham




February 2, 1141, King Stephen of England is defeated by the Earl of Gloucester and his army at the Battle of Lincoln. “They charged the king's troop, slew some, wounded others, and made others prisoners. A most powerful knight rushed upon the king and seized him by the helmet crying with a loud voice, 'I have taken the king!' King Stephen, foaming at the mouth in his rage, surrendered. The rest fought on with no hope of escape till all were killed or surrendered. Baldwin Clare, grievously wounded was taken after a vicious struggle, as too was Richard Fitz Urse. In one short day all had been lost for the royalists." Richard Fitz Urse was my 22nd Great Grandfather. The Battle of Lincoln

December 29, 1170, King Henry II was in Normandy with his Court when he heard of more trouble being caused him by the Archbishop of Canterbury, Thomas Becket. Henry, in his outrage, asked, "Won't anyone rid me of this troublesome Priest?" (or words to that effect). Four Knights of the Court took him quite literally and returned to England where they galloped to Canterbury and murdered Becket, hacking him to death with their swords at the alter of the Cathedral. The cowardly act was done by William de Tracy, Hugh de Morville, Richard le Breton and Reginald Fitz-Urse. Reginald Fitz-Urse was the brother of my 21st Great Grandfather, Richard Fitz-Urse. The Murder of Thomas Becket
A Jousting Tournament

November 26, 1243, "Pardon to Gilbert de Bereham for the death of Richard de Tapinton whom he killed by disadventure with a lance in jousting; on condition that he make his peace with the relatives and stand in trial if anyone will proceed against him. Mandate of Sheriff of Kent to permit him to remain in his bailiwick to restore to him any goods he may have taken.". Gilbert de Bereham was my 19th Great Grandfather.

Joseph Kauffman kept a diary that, far more than any work of fiction, opens a window into the drudgery and the horror experienced by the average line soldier. He was killed at the Battle of Second Manassas and his last entry was on August 28 1862. It is terribly poignant and speaks volumes about war:

"It is now sundown. They are fighting on our right. Oh, to God it would stop"

"At the fatal moment he was to the rear of Philip Printz and by the side of Ben Barham. He was lying on the ground behind a stump loading his gun when he looked out to fire. Mr. Barham saw him drop. Barham called to him but got no reply and later went to him and found he had been fatally shot in the forehead. He was buried on the battlefield." Benjamin Franklin Barham was my Grandfather.

The War of Northern Aggression

The above passages are not taken from works of fiction. They are moments in the life of real ancestors. Discoveries like these are what keeps me motivated and excited about genealogy. In fact, I find it hard to believe that anyone could open such windows into their past without becoming a genealogist.

"I still cannot help thinking of people without a sense of history as orphans. Deprived of the feeling of kinship with a larger whole and wider self, and unable to fix their position on the map of time, they don't know that the story in the old books is also their own."

Lewis Lapham, Editor of Harper's

This site is dedicated to my ancestors; from Richard Fitz-Urse, my 22nd Great Grandfather, to Captain Charles Barham, my 6th Great Grandfather, who arrived in Jamestown in the colony of Virginia in 1653, to my son, Daniel Barham, lll, who sadly is the last of our direct line. If these pages are helpful or entertaining to you I am more than pleased.

The family lines that I have researched thus far are:

Below are links to ancestry charts, family group sheets, photographs and special pages about my father, grandfather, great-grandfather and so on. Each page is a short history of the person and those around them. I believe that these pages cover many of the important times in their lives

My Family Genealogy

My Barham line from the Fitz-Urses to Charles Barham

A brief history of Captain Charles Barham, my 6th Great-Grandfather

Francis Barham, my Great-Grandfather

Benjamin Franklin Barham, my Grandfather

Daniel Barham, my Father

The Children of Daniel Barham

A James River Sunset over Surry County
A Glorious Sunset over Surry County
from the James River Ferry

"God has planted Eternity in the Human Heart." Ecclesiastes 3:11

"Surely God would not have created such a being as man to exist only for a day! No, No, man was made for immortality."
Abraham Lincoln

"Unless you assume a God, the question
of life's purpose is meaningless.
Bertrand Russell, atheist"
Documents & Anecdotes

A Chronology of all References to Captain Charles Barham in the Virginia Colonies

A Petition to the House of Burgesses regarding the sale of land by Charles Barham, III

A Poignant Letter from Carrie Lee Woodard to her Brother, Isaiah

Jesse Courtney Suter's notes Regarding his Father, George Jacob Suter

Jacob Albert Fox Journal regarding the Woodards of Rappahannock County, Virginia

My Genealogy Photograph Albums

A Complete Descendancy, from Richard Fitz-Urse to the Present. Includes my entire database. A Very Large File!
A Rebel's Journey
by Gary Bruner

In the July, 2004, issue of Gettysburg Magazine a nice fellow named Gary Bruner wrote an excellent story about my grandfather, Ben, called "A Rebel's Journey - from Gettysburg to Arlington National Cemetery". As the title suggests the story follows Ben from his early years to his interment at Arlington in the Confederate Circle in 1919. Gary was good enough to allow me to re-print it here and I've done so with a great deal of pride.
My short stories - true stories (with embellishments of course) about my ancestors and other stories of pure fiction
Go to the Confederacy Page
The Point Lookout Confederate
Memorial Ceremony
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